Thursday, September 8, 2011
Don't take him just because you can. @ 7:33 PM
I haven't done a wordy post in a while!
Today's topic, What defines a slut?
I think the term "slut" is used too loosely. I really detest the word "slut", because I think this word is seriously very degrading to people. Even though "slut" has become a word I use to replace "fuck" nowadays, I still hate myself when i use it. At least I don't use it to call people, I just use it in the context where I would usually say "fuck" or "bitch" or "chaocheebye" , etc.
I'm gonna stop the bad habit of saying "slut". I think even "fuck" is better -.-
Anyway, I'm doing this post because I really want to give my opinion of what is a slut, and why I hate it when it's used it the wrong context.
Like example, once Ruiyi had called one of our mutual friends a slut, but the mutual friend was still a virgin -__- so yeah, it's like this kind of situations I find is quite insulting to the other person la :/
So, what is a slut?
Someone who sleeps around a lot?
But how much? And with who?
Nowadays in our society, virginity isn't worth much. Not individually, but in a society as a whole.
For example, I may say, "hey I will remain a virgin until I am married", which means virginity is important to me. But it is ONLY to me. But society as a whole, many people has already lost their virginity in their teens/before they marry. So as a whole, virginity doesn't mean much.
Hence I think that just because a person has lost their virginity, it does not make them a slut.
So are you thinking, what about sex with multiple people, really often, and without really caring about it?
But what if the person just really likes sex. To the extent of making sure that there is no personal attachment and is clear with each partner that they’re not in a relationship.
Meaning that person just like sex like how someone else likes watching tv, etc. Watching tv doesn't make you a tv-whore, who why does having sex make one a slut?
My point is, if you really break it down, what is a slut?
Wikipedia: Slut (n.) or slattern is a pejorative term for a person who is deemed sexually promiscuous that first appeared in Middle English in 1402 as slutte with the meaning "a dirty, untidy, or slovenly woman." The modern sense of "a sexually promiscuous woman" dates to at least 1450.
Right. So then best to define promiscuous and figure we use slut because it’s shorter and sounds meaner.
From Oxford: promiscuous (adj.) characterized by or involving indiscriminate mingling or association, esp. having sexual relations with a number of partners on a casual basis.
Same questions: how many partners? How casual a basis? Is “mingling” what we're calling it these days? But there’s a word in there that hones on in what, to me, is the difference between sexually liberal and slutty: indiscriminate.
Mmm. So then, indiscriminate (adj.): lacking in care, judgment, selectivity, etc. Synonyms: haphazard, random, arbitrary.
It suggests a complete lack of care or thought is involved. You’re not applying real feeling or even sound decision to the sexual acts or relations. You’re just doing it for whatever instant need or desire pops up: to make someone jealous, to not feel lonely the next morning, to prove you can, or just to get off. The other person is barely involved.
So next time someone mentions that _______ hooked up with ________ again, think twice before crying “slut”. Consider first whether she was selective in this move. Note whether she applied care and thought. Ask, was she simply expressing her feminist self or did she do it to prove she could?
Chances are this one act doesn’t make ________ a slut. It probably just makes her stupid.
I got a lot of the information from http://20-nothings.blogspot.com/2008/09/what-defines-slut.html , I was googling what defines a slut because the whole day I keep seeing the word "slut" on my twitter -.-
So please, think twice the next time you call someone slut. Just because they're not a virgin, or they have many boyfriends they've made love to, does not mean that they are sluts. In my mind, I cannot think of anyone I know that should be labelled as that, and I hope you don't either.
